Response to Maria

I feel like most girls our age are having trouble finding a "healthy" relationship... We are at such a strange point in our lives where relationships hold a lot more potential than they may have when we were 14...16... even 18... The pressure to get a job, move out of our parents houses, and eventually enter a serious relationship is building, and maybe you need to wonder if being shy is simply a character trait, or are you really fulfilling the expected submissive traits of a woman. As for being afraid of saying something "stupid"...that's definitely part of your personality and if something "stupid" comes out I'm sure its not really stupid and that if the person you are talking to dislikes that comment... forget them! be confident, youre perfect exactly the way you are. dont change for anyone. but dont think that you wont find a healthy relationship judging by who you've met so far- you'll find some one who enjoys you for you and that'll when your wall will come down